my ultimate goal is to be at peace with myself, eliminate toxic feelings and elements and energies from my life, unlearn negative and harmful practices and thought patterns, stop checking for people that don’t check for me, create a space for myself that is nurturing for growth so that i may generate loving energy for myself and for others, nourish my spirit and balance my energies, i have big dreams and i deserve to live a life i love and let that love radiate
So being blissfully unaware of inane, horrid popular music, I only recently became aware of this new wave of skinny shaming in songs. Yes, my guy kept saying “I’m all about that bass bout that bass, no treble” but I had no idea what the hell that was until I went on Tumblr. And of course, the responses I have seen on my Tumblr dashboard are saying things to the degree that complaining about skinny shaming is in no way as serious as fat shaming.
But let me just say, as a personal trainer having these naturally skinny ectomorph females asking me to build them a Kim Kardashian booty/body because that’s what men want to stick their anacondas in(ew), is insane, not to mention unrealistic. Yes, societal perceptions of what’s “beautiful” will forever vary with time, but why is there this constant need to put down those who do not have the same body type as you do? Like, does it really make you feel that much better about yourself? I understand the stigma behind being overweight in this culture, and the negative consequences behind it, but do we really need to bring down someone else to lift our own spirits up?
Honestly, my body image was always extremely negative to the point of self destruction for most of my life. I can finally say I have reached a point of body positivity with myself. However, as someone who is expected to be a positive role model in terms of body image, I would NEVER put down someone with a different body type, or say that my body type is more superior or more “feminine” than another. I love my petite, toned yet curvy body but I admire women with extremely muscular bodies, I admire women who are thin, I admire women who are heavy set. Every body has beauty within it, and bringing other people down does not necessarily bolster your own body’s beauty.
As long as you have your health and happiness, that’s all that matters.